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The Battle Against Underage Drinking

Before we get into specific tips, tricks, and strategies to help fight underage drinking, let's take a look at the problem:

• In 2013, around 8.7 million young people (between the ages of 12 and 20) reported drinking in the past month
• In the same year, around 5.4 million young people identified as binge drinkers
• Around 700,000 young people struggled with an alcohol use disorder in 2013 (that's 2.8% of this entire age group)
• Only around 70,000 received treatment

Those are some stark numbers. Things get even worse when you move to the 18 and up age range:

• 16.6 million people over the age of 18 struggled with an alcohol use disorder in 2013 (that's 7% percent of this entire age group)
• Only around 1 million people received treatment

Tips & Tricks for Parents

The first thing to remember is that while underage drinking's dangerous on many different levels, it isn't a death sentence. In fact, many teens don't drink at all.
If you think your child's drinking, the first thing to do is talk to them. We've complied a list of helpful resources below, the first two of which are focused on talking to teens about drinking.
When talking with your child, remember the following:

• Don't lecture - no one likes to be lectured to, especially teenagers.
• Explain the dangers of underage drinking with specific examples. In other words, don't say "drinking is bad," rather explain how drinking sometimes leads to drinking and driving.
• Avoid getting angry. Anger can easily turn a conversation into an argument, which helps nobody.
• Be honest! If you drank as a teen, tell your kid that! Honesty goes a long way in establishing trust.
• Ask questions. While your child may not answer honestly, it's important to show them you're interested & willing to listen.
• Continue the conversation. It's uncomfortable to talk to your kids about the dangers of underage drinking - don't let that stop you! Remember to keep the conversation going & talk more than once
• It's also important to remember there are many reasons why teens drink. While it's tempting to blame peer pressure or another child's "bad influence," this isn't always the case. Ask them why they're drinking, or thinking about drinking, to get the truth.
  Having an open and honest conversation is a great way to begin the dialogue with your child. This isn't the only strategy though. There are other ideas to consider, including:
• Seeking professional help from a family therapist, treatment center, or other substance abuse professional.
• Working with the PTA or another school-based program to come up with alternatives to drinking.
• Offering alcohol-free social events (this doesn't mean throwing a party & hanging out with your kids at it - no one wants that - rather, let your kids & their friends know they can hang out at your house without alcohol).

our self..... primary self and disowned self

How do you know who your primary and disowned selves are? The qualities that you admire excessively or overvalue in others, and those qualities that you really judge in others, give you a good indication of who your disowned selves are. So if you really admire someone who is an artist and you think that they are better than you because of their artistic ability, then you have probably disowned your own artistic self and you might have as a primary self a very logical, practical self. And if you really can't stand someone who is blatantly selfish and you judge them for being selfish, then you have probably disowned your selfishness and have as a primary self a giving self.

What you have disowned and what is primary in you, also gives you a good indication of what kinds of people you will be attracted to and enter into relationship with.

The two main scenarios are:

1. You will like people who have similar primary selves to you, and you will dislike people who’s primary selves are your disowned selves. You will usually choose as friends those people who's primary selves you like.

2. But you will be attracted to (and at other times repelled by) people who carry your disowned selves, either the positive ones or negative ones. Usually we will enter into quite intense relationships with people who carry our disowned selves.

relationship..........................

We all conduct our relationships with other people using our personality. Our personality, however, is made up of various parts, which can be called sub-personalities or selves. So when we relate with others there are quite a few different selves involved in our relationships. This is why relationships are never simple or easy. It is rather like there are two families or two groups relating, and not just two people. This is why sometimes we feel caring towards our partner and at other times we want to be cared for; it is why sometimes we admire a quality in our partner tremendously and at other times we see that same quality as a fault; and why sometimes something our partner does amuses us and at other times that same action irritates us.

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The Problem:

W: Do you love me? (accusing tone)

H: Of course I do. How many times have I told you?

W: Well it doesn’t feel like it (tears, looks down, turns away)

H: (Sighs-exasperated) Well, maybe you have a problem then. I can’t help it if

you don’t feel loved. (Set mouth, lecturing tone.)

W: Right. So it’s my problem is it? Nothing to do with you, right? Nothing to do

with your ten feet thick walls. You’re an emotional cripple. You’ve never

felt a real emotion in your life.

H: I refuse to talk to you when you get like this. So irrational. There is no

point.

W: Right. This is what always happens. You put up your wall. You go icy. Till I

get tired and give up. Then, after a while, when you want sex you

decide that I am not quite so bad after all.

H: There is no point in talking to you. This is a shooting gallery. You’re so

aggressive.

Rigid pattern- blame/withdraw and absorbing states of negative emotion form

feedback loop. No safe emotional connection-escalating danger and isolation.

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MIND ZONE: anger management

MIND ZONE: anger management: The A-B-C-D Model Albert Ellis developed a model that is consistent with the way we conceptualize anger management treatment. He...

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anger management

The A-B-C-D Model

Albert Ellis developed a model that is consistent with the way we conceptualize anger management

treatment. He calls his model the A-B-C-D or rational-emotive model. In this model, “A”

stands for an activating event, what we have been calling the red-flag event. “B” represents the

beliefs people have about the activating event. Ellis claims that it is not the events themselves

that produce feelings such as anger, but our interpretations of and beliefs about the events.

“C” stands for the emotional consequences of events. In other words, these are the feelings

people experience as a result of their interpretations of and beliefs concerning the event.

According to Ellis and other cognitive behavioral theorists, as people become angry, they

engage in an internal dialog, called “self-talk.” For example, suppose you were waiting for a

bus to arrive. As it approaches, several people push in front of you to board. In this situation,

you may start to get angry. You may be thinking, “How can people be so inconsiderate! They

just push me aside to get on the bus. They obviously don’t care about me or other people.”

Examples of the irrational self-talk that can produce anger escalation are reflected in statements

such as “People should be more considerate of my feelings,” “How dare they be so

inconsiderate and disrespectful,” and “They obviously don’t care about anyone but themselves.”

Ellis says that people do not have to get angry when they encounter such an event. The event

itself does not get them upset and angry; rather, it is people’s interpretations of and beliefs

concerning the event that cause the anger. Beliefs underlying anger often take the form of

“should” and “must.” Most of us may agree, for example, that respecting others is an

admirable quality. Our belief might be, “People should always respect others.” In reality, however,

people often do not respect each other in everyday encounters. You can choose to view

the situation more realistically as an unfortunate defect of human beings, or you can let your

anger escalate every time you witness, or are the recipient of, another person’s disrespect.

Unfortunately, your perceived disrespect will keep you angry and push you toward the explosion

phase. Ironically, it may even lead you to show disrespect to others, which would violate your

own fundamental belief about how people should be treated.

Ellis’ approach consists of identifying irrational beliefs and disputing them with more rational

or realistic perspectives (in Ellis’ model, “D” stands for dispute). You may get angry, for example,

when you start thinking, “I must always be in control. I must control every situation.” It is

not possible or appropriate, however, to control every situation. Rather than continue with

these beliefs, you can try to dispute them. You might tell yourself, “I have no power over things

I cannot control,” or “I have to accept what I cannot change.”

People may have many other irrational beliefs that may lead to anger. Consider an example

where a friend of yours disagrees with you. You may start to think, “Everyone must like me and

give me approval.” If you hold such a belief, you are likely to get upset and angry when you

face rejection. However, if you dispute this irrational belief by saying, “I can’t please everyone;

some people are not going to approve of everything I do,” you will most likely start to calm

down and be able to control your anger more easily.

Another common irrational belief is, “I must be respected and treated fairly by everyone.” This

also is likely to lead to frustration and anger. Most folks, for example, live in an urban society

where they may, at times, not be given the common courtesy they expect. This is unfortunate,

but from an anger management perspective, it is better to accept the unfairness and lack of

interpersonal connectedness that can result from living in an urban society. Thus, to dispute

this belief, it is helpful to tell yourself, “I can’t be expected to be treated fairly by everyone.”

Other beliefs that may lead to anger include “Everyone should follow the rules,” or “Life should

be fair,” or “Good should prevail over evil,” or “People should always do the right thing.” These

are beliefs that are not always followed by everyone in society, and, usually, there is little you

can do to change that. How might you dispute these beliefs? In other words, what thoughts

that are more rational and adaptive and will not lead to anger can be substituted for such

beliefs?

Sunil Kumar                              Jayasudha Kamaraj

Clinical Psychologist                 Counseling Psychologist

Founder                                     co-founder

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MIND ZONE: Myths about anger

MIND ZONE: Myths about anger: Myths About Anger Myth #1: Anger Is Inherited. One misconception or myth about anger is that the way we express anger is inherited a...

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Myths about anger

Myths About Anger

Myth #1: Anger Is Inherited.

One misconception or myth about anger is that the way we express anger is inherited and cannot

be changed. Sometimes, we may hear someone say, “I inherited my anger from my father; that’s

just the way I am.” This statement implies that the expression of anger is a fixed and unalterable

set of behaviors. Evidence from research studies, however, indicates that people are not born

with set, specific ways of expressing anger. These studies show, rather, that because the

expression of anger is learned behavior, more appropriate ways of expressing anger also can be

learned.

It is well established that much of people’s behavior is learned by observing others, particularly

influential people. These people include parents, family members, and friends. If children

observe parents expressing anger through aggressive acts, such as verbal abuse and violence,

it is very likely that they will learn to express anger in similar ways. Fortunately, this behavior

can be changed by learning new and appropriate ways of anger expression. It is not necessary

to continue to express anger by aggressive and violent means.


Sunil Kumar                              Jayasudha Kamaraj
Clinical Psychologist                 Counseling Psychologist
http://mindzone.in/

when does anger become a problem?

When Does Anger Become a Problem?

Anger becomes a problem when it is felt too intensely, is felt too frequently, or is expressed

inappropriately. Feeling anger too intensely or frequently places extreme physical strain on the

body. During prolonged and frequent episodes of anger, certain divisions of the nervous system

become highly activated. Consequently, blood pressure and heart rate increase and stay

elevated for long periods. This stress on the body may produce many different health problems,

such as hypertension, heart disease, and diminished immune system efficiency. Thus, from a

health standpoint, avoiding physical illness is a motivation for controlling anger.

Another compelling reason to control anger concerns the negative consequences that result

from expressing anger inappropriately. In the extreme, anger may lead to violence or physical

aggression, which can result in numerous negative consequences, such as being arrested or

jailed, being physically injured, being retaliated against, losing loved ones, being terminated

from a substance abuse treatment or social service program, or feeling guilt, shame, or regret.

Even when anger does not lead to violence, the inappropriate expression of anger, such as

verbal abuse or intimidating or threatening behavior, often results in negative consequences. For

example, it is likely that others will develop fear, resentment, and lack of trust toward those

who subject them to angry outbursts, which may cause alienation from individuals, such as

family members, friends, and coworkers.

Sunil Kumar                                            Jayasudha Kamaraj
Clinical Psychologist                               Counseling Psychologist
Founder                                                    co-founder
http://mindzone.in/

Addiction...... www.mind zone.in

The American Psychiatric Association (2013), World Health Organization (2008), and American Society for Addiction Medicine (2010) have acknowledged

the existence of behavioral addictions to varying degrees and with

different, but similar, clinical criteria. Operationally, one of our authors,

Mark Griffiths (2005) builds on other researchers’ consensus to define a

behavioral addiction by six core components: salience, mood modification,

tolerance, withdrawal symptoms, conflict, and relapse. Salience means the

behavior becomes the most important activity in a person’s life and tends to

dominate his or her thinking, feelings, and behavior. Mood modification refers

to the emotional effect the behavior has on the individual which often

serves as a coping strategy and is reported as the arousing “rush” or the

numbing or the tranquilizing “escape” the behavior provides. Tolerance is the

process whereby increasing amounts of the behavior are required to achieve

the former mood-modifying effects, often meaning greater periods of time

are spent engaging in the behavior, and/or there is a desired escalation in

the intensity, recklessness, destructiveness, and ego-dystonic nature of the

behavior. Withdrawal symptoms are the unpleasant feeling states and/or physical

effects (e.g., the shakes, moodiness, irritability) that occur when the

person is unable to engage in the behavior. Conflict references discord

between the person and those around him or her (i.e., interpersonal conflict),

conflicts with other activities (i.e., social life, work, hobbies, and interests)

or from within the individual him- or herself (i.e., intrapsychic conflict

and/or subjective feelings of loss of control) that are concerned with spending

too much time engaging in the addictive behavior. Relapse addresses the

tendency for repeated reversions to earlier patterns of excessive behavior to

recur and for a common return to the most extreme patterns of excessive

behavior soon after periods of control.

alcohol

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TREATMENT FOR ALCOHOL ADDICTION IN CHENNAI

The Narcotics Control Bureau has announced that drug abuse has been on the increase since 2011 in Chennai. The drugs in use are heroin, ganja and cocaine. The Narcotics Control Bureau has indeed been successful in creating awareness about the situation while there have been several de-addiction centers fighting the problem in Chennai. Some of the premium hospitals in Chennai such as TTK Hospital have done yeomen service to control the problem. Founded in 1980, the TTK center for de-addiction has been helping thousands of people fight their addictions and other hospitals have also followed the example and have been providing care, support and treatment for the addicted. These centers are meeting de-addiction needs with detoxification and counselling.
The Tamil Nadu de-addiction directory has details of 40 centers that will work to enable you and your loved ones to fight their addiction and recover from drug abuse. Wisdom Hospital and TTK hospital in Chennai are leaders in this area in the recovery community.
The VHS-Rajaji Centre for De-addiction also provides similar help and guidance to patients and has 22 beds to treat alcoholics and drug addicts.
These are a few of the good de-addiction centers in Chennai and there is not much else available for the time being, When you go looking for drug and alcohol treatment centers in Chennai, you find a few government run facilities and outreach programs as well as the TTK de-addiction center and the Wisdom Hospital.
Chennai which was earlier known as Madras, is the capital of Tamil Nadu and has a population of 5 million + people. In Chennai the hospitals report 90% of people admitted are due to alcohol abuse. There is a pattern to this and this is seen every day in the casualty wards of these hospitals. More than 80% of the cases admitted as accident / assault are seen as medical / legal cases arising due to alcohol abuse. At the Stanley Hospital in Chennai alone, everyday five patients are admitted with complaints of “Alcohol Overdose”.
When one does an inquiry into the cause for the alcohol abuse and the current state of affairs, one realises that an improvement in the income causes people to take to drinking. This does not happen with the youth alone. This is seen happening with middle aged men who are admitted to the casualty section of hospitals as well.
Apart from the well-known de-addiction centers there are many more rehab centers that have sprung up on the outskirts of the city and these cater to the increasing drug and alcohol addicts in this region. These rehab centers are often managed by well-meaning staff who have been addicts themselves. These reformed addicts are often “under qualified” but with a keenness to help others in similar problems. The issues ultimately are not so much the lack of intent but the lack of regulation.
The center that offers de-addiction facility must have qualified doctors, psychologists, and psychiatrists and other paramedical staff and this is found lacking in these newly created outfits. Shanti Ranganathan who heads the TT Ranganathan Clinical Research Foundation, says that these centers are seriously lacking in facilities and the required expertise to deal with the addicts. She also expresses unhappiness at the fact that some of the patients from the TTK de-addiction center itself have started clinics. Also, these centers cannot be pronounced illegal as they have been registered after fulfilling all the mandatory requirements.
The TTK de-addiction center offers services such as AA and NA Meetings, Detoxification, Alcoholism Treatment, Drug Addiction Treatment, Residential Rehabilitation, Prevention of Relapse and Family Services.
Founded in the year 1980, this center was started with the desire to help people struggling with addiction. Since then the hospital has increased to a capacity of a 65 bed treatment facility in 1987 and has been instrumental in helping 20,000 individuals with alcohol and drug addiction.
The hospital’s vision is to help rehabilitate patients with the help of in-house treatment and focus on helping the patient’s families understand that addiction is a very serious problem. Patients are the first to be provided with the help. There are detoxification and psychological therapy provided which may consist of individual and group sessions. The TTK Hospital also has a unique program which would require families to participate in therapy for 14 days.
There is also a 25 day program whereby patients can take up counselling any number of times in a month, for approximately 2-3 years to help the patient in living a healthy life henceforth. Although success in recovery may seem like a daunting task to many including the kith and kin of the addicts, one has to take advantage of the help and resources available at the centers. Learning from these places will help in the recovery process.

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MIND ZONE: Betrayal

MIND ZONE: Betrayal: Ten ways to overcome betrayal and ten ways to make it worse 1. Preparation. if you noticed warning signs and are ready to deal with the b...

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Betrayal

Ten ways to overcome betrayal and ten ways to make it worse

1. Preparation. if you noticed warning signs and are ready to deal with the betrayal when it happens, you have a definite advantage.  Denial is deadly.

2. Inspiration.  If you are inspired and feel powerful, you will act powerfully and decisively.  Powerlessness is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

3. Communication with the betrayer.  If you can talk to him, you have a definite advantage.  If the betrayal takes a while to resolve itself, that also helps.  A sudden break is much more difficult to deal with.

4. Explanation. When you know why the betrayal happened, you feel more in control. You can sort out your responsibility, your partner's responsibility, and the events that neither of you can control.  If you never know why it happened, you stay in a place of confusion.

5. Reparations.  If your partner is able to apologize and to make it up to you in some way, you'll feel much better.  If either or both of you are continually rageful, you'll never get this comfort.

6. Strong situation.  If you have lots of resources - good health, money, personal power, and spirituality - chances are you'll handle the betrayal well.  If you don't have resources, you will find it much more difficult to rebound.

7.Support foundation. A network of family, friends, and sympathetic colleagues is essential.  Children can also be superb supporters. Having a pet can help a lot.  Being isolated keeps you from recovering.

8.Emotional connection. You need to be deeply connected to a few special people with whom you can share your feelings and experiences - even the ones you're most embarrassed about.  Loneliness is bad enough when you're not being betrayed; it's terrible when you are.

9. Sexual sophistication. Knowing the joys and dangers of sex is a vital part of recovering from betrayal.  You need to know how to protect your body from disease if you have been sexually betrayed. you also need to know how to resume your sex life after you heal. Sexual ignorance can be painful - and possibly even fatal.

10. Spiritual orientation.  If you have faith in god, a higher power, or a supreme being, it will see you through.  I'm not saying you can't be an atheist or an agnostic, but lack of faith can defeat you.

Sunil Kumar                                    Jayasudha Kamaraj
Clinical Psychologist                       Counseling Psychologist
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alcohol and drug rehabilitation in chennai

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